What Not to Skip When Having a [Super] Small Wedding!

Many future brides might think that, as a planner, my business would target big weddings, but that’s not true. For me, wedding planning is about partnering with you to make the first day of your MARRIAGE amazing; to honor you and the love of your life; to join two families together; to celebrate love. So I want to tell you something important: it’s ok to have a small wedding, a courthouse wedding, or any other kind of wedding, if that’s what your and your fiancé want. Yup, I said it.  That may sound strange coming from a wedding planner, but this is your permission to have the tiny wedding you’ve dreamed of, and below are the things I recommend to not skip:    

1. Hire an amazing photographer.  This is the first and most important.  Just because it’s small doesn’t mean you don’t need amazing pictures to cherish forever and pass down to your grandchildren.  Look for a photographer who will allow you to hire per hour and schedule them to be there for the ceremony and to get some photos afterward.  Think about what is important to you in that day and have amazing photos taken of that.

2. Invite only the people you want.  Maybe it’s just the two of you; maybe it’s your immediate families; maybe it’s some friends.  Whatever you decide, make sure you aren’t inviting people just because you feel like you have to.  Invite them because they are a special part of your lives and you love them.  If you get any questions about the wedding, just be open with people and own your decision.  Simply explain you’ve decided to have a very small wedding and leave it at that.  There is no rulebook on who you HAVE to invite to a wedding.  It’s your wedding after all!  

3. Get a really gorgeous bouquet.  There’s something about flowers that just feel bridal.  Your wedding day is a special chance to carry a bouquet, so make sure to budget for it and get the most perfect one you could ever imagine. If a bouquet isn’t your thing then consider a floral crown, or spend extra money getting your hair and makeup done.  The point is: treat yourself and take advantage of this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity.  

4. Wear a dress you love.  It doesn’t have to be expensive, brand new, or even white, but choose a dress that YOU feel amazing in and suits your personality.  It’s your day and you want to be comfortable and confident!

5. Do something fun and memorable after the ceremony.  Whether you have a small ceremony at a church, or  a courthouse wedding with just a couple family members, make a reservation somewhere special (for lunch, dinner, or even just dessert) for afterwards to keep the celebration going with your guests.  You may be thinking “the reason I wanted a small wedding was so I didn’t have to buy everyone dinner” and it’s perfectly appropriate to have each guest pay their own bill.  These are your closest family and friends and they will understand.  Just be upfront with everyone in advance so they know what to expect and, I promise you, they will just be excited to be included in your day.  

 Photo by  Metts Photo

Photo by Metts Photo

Thinking about having an intimate wedding?  I’d love to help and I’m offering a special rate through September 30th for anyone having a wedding fewer than 30 guests.  Shoot me an email (kelley@havilandevents.com) and let’s set up a time to talk about your vision!